It feels like I am losing myself to my work - NoCV

I am a content creator, and lately I have been struggling with drawing the line between my personal life and my career. When I started creating videos, it was just fun. I shared lifestyle clips, funny skits, and sometimes my thoughts about everyday Nigerian struggles. Slowly, my page began to grow, and brands started reaching out to me. That was when things became serious. The problem is that many people around me now feel entitled to my private life. If I do not post for a few days, followers start messaging me, asking what is wrong. Some even demand that I share personal things I am not comfortable putting out. For example, when I lost a close relative recently, I wanted to take time off. Instead, I got flooded with questions like, “Why are you quiet?” “Are you okay?” and “Give us an update.” It felt like I could not grieve in peace. Even family members now see me as someone who must always be available online. My younger brother once joked that if I do not post about an event, it is like it never happened. The worst is when people assume that because I am a content creator, every detail of my life must be public. I love my work, but sometimes it feels like I am losing myself in the process. I want to be able to separate my private moments from what I put online without looking unserious to my audience. But I am scared that if I reduce how much I share, I might lose engagement and brand deals. How do you think someone in my position can strike a balance between career growth and protecting personal boundaries? Thank you.



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