Can I eat my cake and have it?

Can I eat my cake and have it? - NoCV

I honestly just need to rant because the thing that happened in my office has been disturbing me since. On my boss’s birthday, we all gathered in the office to celebrate him. When it was time to sing, he told me to sing "Happy birthday" for him with my bedroom voice. Everybody laughed, and I just followed along. I did it, but deep down I felt so uncomfortable. At that moment, I did not want to cause a scene or appear like I was overreacting, so I sang. But since that day, I have not had peace of mind. Each time I remember how I sang in that way in front of everybody, I feel disgusted with myself because I am a married woman. Now I am stuck in a dilemma. A part of me feels like I allowed myself to be disrespected and I want to take action against him. Another part of me is confused, asking if I can even sue him since I joined in the celebration, ate the slice of cake I was given, and still requested for a huge chunk of the cake to go and eat at home. Please, what can be done?

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