In my place of work, I am constantly envied, and I know it. Unlike most of my colleagues, I live comfortably, and it has made me a topic of discussion. People backbite a lot. They whisper that I am into fraud and all sorts of illegal things, simply because I don’t live like them or struggle the way they do with money. Nobody has ever asked me questions directly, but I hear the comments and I see the looks. The truth is this. I am in love with a woman, and she loves me deeply as well. She has been the one funding my lifestyle. She supports me financially and emotionally. She believes in me and wants to build a life with me. She will be flying into the country soon so we can get married. Here is where my problem is. She is a white woman. I don’t want anyone in my office to know about her or about my wedding. I already know how their minds work. If they hear that I am marrying a white woman, all the accusations they have been making in secret will suddenly become “confirmed” in their heads. They will say, “That’s how he has been living well,” or “We knew it all along.” I don’t want to give them that satisfaction. I am seriously considering having a very quiet wedding. No colleagues invited. No announcements. Nothing that links my work life to my personal life. Just my family and close friends who truly know me. What I need advice on is this. How realistic is it to get married without letting anyone at work know? After the wedding, am I obligated to tell them that I am now a married man, or can I keep that part of my life completely private as well? I am tired of being judged for living well. I just want peace, my marriage, and my job without unnecessary assumptions.