I have been doing office contributions for colleagues celebrations since the beginning of this year. Naming ceremonies, weddings and all. I never complained, even when money was tight, because I believed it was the right thing to do as colleagues. Now, one of my colleagues is getting married, and it turns out he is marrying his cousin. Personally, that kind of marriage goes against my beliefs. Because of this, I politely refused to contribute money and also decided not to attend the wedding. I did not insult anyone, I simply opted out quietly. Everyone else in the office contributed except me. Since then, the atmosphere has changed. I am now being looked at as the bad person. You would think I committed a terrible offense. What hurts the most is that nobody considers the fact that I have contributed all year without complaining. Suddenly, this act has erased all my good. Now I am honestly asking. When did choosing not to support something that goes against your beliefs become a crime? Why is doing what feels right to you automatically seen as wickedness in the workplace?